The very common popular theories when it comes to how a person should choose his partner is something that everyone has heard all the time, and that is ” Opposite Attracts”.

It may seem good having an idea such an opposite attraction but if you’re going to read some research about it,  it doesn’t actually pan out. As a matter of fact, the precise opposite of  “opposite attracts” seems to be good to be true. As what is being said, the best finding is that the more things you have  in common,  the better. There’s no actual  danger in having so many things in common with a particular person .

The relationship of a partner who has a lot of similarities or things in common, which both share the same core values and enjoys to spend more time in similar ways is seen as much likely that will last longer and has less conflict to deal with one another than those partners who are different or opposite. 

However, it doesn’t mean that you should find someone who is the exact carbon copy of yourself. The most significant key points to take note of when you’re likely finding someone is that both of you have similarities to the most important things of your life.  Moreover, put in mind that real life differs hugely from those fairytale or fictional stories. You need to invest time, effort, and half of yourself to make the relationship work.

Here are the lists of fifty quotes that talk about OPPOSITE ATTRACTS.

  1. “Together, we form a necessary paradox; not a senseless contradiction.” – Criss Jami, Healology
  1. “You were always saying you were gonna shoot him,” he mutters, but it’s kind of half-hearted. “Stupid fucking little tit, he needs a bullet in his head. What do you keep him round for, anyway?”

Because he makes me laugh. Because, fuck knows why, he adores me. Because he needs somebody to look after him and nobody else knows how. Because everything about us is wrong and I never ever want to be right. Because I wake up in the morning and see him sleeping next to me with his stupid dyed hair and his stupid painted nails and his stupid toy monkey and I remember I love him so much I don’t know what to do, I love him I love him I LOVE HIM.” – Richard Rider, Stockholm Syndrome (Stockholm Syndrome, #1)

  1. “Ginny who lived her life with hair in the breeze, Stillman who lived his with it under his hat. And he loved her so much the worse for it.” – Josh Weil, The New Valley: Novellas
  1. ROMEO: I love you.

RIMMEL: Romeo…

ROMEO: I love your glasses, your clumsiness, your wild hair, even the way you snort when you laugh. (He smiled) I love you in spite of yourself, Rim.

Can’t you love me in spite of myself?” – Cambria Hebert, #Nerd (Hashtag, #1)

  1. “My father, a Palestinian, and my mother, an Israeli, met in a bar in New York. Their encounter was a blue shift. An anomaly. A collision. In the end, I understand, it is only for this we live. All I ever wanted was to love.” – Hannah Lillith Assadi, Sonora
  1. “Gossip spreads because people have nothing to do! Get yo life chile!” – Toni Mariani
  1. “Opposites attract because they are alike. They are alike in that they are opposites. ” – Bashar
  1. “There was no predicting how Merripen would fare in Win’s absence, but Cam had a feeling it wasn’t going to be pleasant. They couldn’t have been more opposite, the pale blond invalid and the huge Rom. One so refined and otherworldly, the other brown and rough-hewn and barely civilized. But the connection was there, like the path of a hawk that always returned to the same forest, following the invisible map that was etched in its very nature.” – Lisa Kleypas, Seduce Me at Sunrise (The Hathaways, #2)
  1. “Some day you will think of what I am going to say to you now: our friendship has no other purpose, no other reason, than to show you how utterly unlike me you are.” – Hermann Hesse, Narcissus and Goldmund
  1. “They were the right counterbalance to one another.” – Kelly Moran, Counterbalance
  1. “A boy made of stardust and selfishness; a girl filled with fire and fury at the world. We are a tangle of emotional wreckage, two broken messes thrown together, trying to navigate something we can barely comprehend.” – Julie Johnson, The Monday Girl (The Girl Duet, #1)
  1. “The reason as to why we are attracted to our opposites is because they are our salvation from the burden of being ourselves.” – Kamand Kojouri
  1. “The fact that you can’t see how much you’re worth makes you worth so much more.” She opened her mouth once, her brow bunched, but nothing came out. She didn’t know the words to ask. I continued. “A diamond doesn’t know how much it’s worth; it’s just beautiful because it exists.” – Shelly Crane, The Other Side Of Gravity (Oxygen #1)
  1. “I don’t want forever. I never did… I just want right now.” – Naima Simone, Witness to Passion (Guarding Her Body, #1)
  1. “Fallon, you’re my Achilles Heel. I want to fuck you senseless, until you feel me imprinted on you even when I’m not inside you. But that’s all I want—all I can allow myself.” – Naima Simone, Witness to Passion (Guarding Her Body, #1)
  1. “If Shane had avoided her for years because of a kiss, he might leave the country over a blow and hand job.”- Naima Simone, Witness to Passion (Guarding Her Body, #1)
  1. “He’s so outta my league, we’re not even playing the same sport… He’s professional soccer in Europe and I’m intramural badminton in the States.” – Nicki Elson, Vibrizzio
  1. “If two people are so unalike, as you and I, they are pleased when they discover points of agreement. But if they are as alike as Nietzsche and I, they suffer from their differences. “- H.F. Peters, My Sister, My Spouse: A Biography of Lou Andreas-Salomé
  1. “If you were truly ‘here for me,’ you would have a Kahlua in one hand and Henry Cavill’s number in the other. Since I’m not having drunken phone sex with Superman, there must be another reason you’re darkening my living room.” – Naima Simone, Witness to Passion (Guarding Her Body, #1)
  1. “Sometimes you have to go ‘yippee-ki-yay’ on a person who deserves it.” – Naima Simone, Witness to Passion (Guarding Her Body, #1)
  1. “Watching them was like watching the sunset and the sunrise, equally beautiful in different ways.” – Shannon A. Thompson, Death Before Daylight (Timely Death, #3)
  1. “A man can’t love you because you haven’t read as many books as he has? He can’t love you because you don’t speak French or because you don’t go to operas? You’re telling me we have to fall in love with people who are just like us?” – Billie Letts, Where the Heart Is
  1. “The night I met him [he] told me that, for some reason, life usually grants us what we are not looking for. He was given wealth, fame, and power, yet his soul yearned only for spiritual peace so that he could silence the shadows in his heart.” – Carlos Ruiz Zafón, Marina
  1. “Love and Fear are polar opposites. Love originates from the soul, while Fear and worries and insecurities originate in the mind. Love is Heavenly, while Fear is Earthly. Love is a gift from Above, Fear is a burden from below.” – Donald L. Hicks, Look into the stillness
  1. “You think I’m perfect, but I feel like a songbird trapped in a cage.” – Christina L. Barr, The Queen
  1. “For Gascoigne and Clinch were not so dissimilar in temperament, and even in their differences, showed a harmony of sorts – with Gascoigne as the upper octave, the clearer, brighter sound, and Clinch as the bass-note, thrumming.” – Eleanor Catton, The Luminaries
  1. “Jack stared at me. He had big blue eyes that were at war with the blue in his hair for attention—vibrant, sparkling, crystalline. His face? Defined cheekbones, full lips, straight nose and a strong jaw. In fact, I hadn’t really looked that close at him before, but he was kind of hot, if you could get past the whole punk thing (which for the record, wasn’t my thing at all).” –Jen Nessie Strange, Living Dead Girl (Living Dead World #1)
  1. “All students of man and society who possess that first requisite for so difficult a study, a due sense of its difficulties, are aware that the besetting danger is not so much of embracing falsehood for truth, as of mistaking part of the truth for the whole.”-
  1. “And the geography of the thing–the geography of them–was completely and hopelessly wrong.”-
  1. “As contraries are known by contraries, so is the delights of presence best known by the torments of absence.”-
  1. “As different as a moonbeam from lightning, or frost from fire.”-
  1. “As he stood in the darkness, his eyes glistened and that’s when I knew my light found its traction.”-
  1. “At first opposites attract. Then opposites attack.”-
  1. “But there is no energy unless there is a tension of opposites; hence it is necessary to discover the opposite to the attitude of the conscious mind.”-
  1. “Every good girl loved a bad boy. It was a fact of life, a quirk of nature. Opposites attract, and the badder the boy, the more attractive he was to that good girl who couldn’t help but be drawn to him.”-
  1. “Experience is the opposite of education.”-
  1. “Faith, in its most correct form, never removes responsibility; it removes fear of responsibility. The results are complete opposites with the greater saying, ‘God’s will is my delight.”-
  1. “I don’t think opposites attract. I think like attracts like. So I don’t think that they do attract, opposites. Only when you’re talking about magnetic poles.”-
  1. “I see love developing from friendship. Common ground is a strong basis for friendship. My husband is my best friend and we have a lot in common even though we’re admittedly different people.”-
  1. “I was reading that lightning is a negative charge that comes from the friction that clouds carry.”-
  1. “If you want to know how negative you are, pay attention to how much you hate negativity in other people. ” –
  1. “It was like watching a boar try to take on the endless blue of the sky.”-
  1. “It’s usually our opposites who complement us best, because they’re the only ones who can balance us out.”-
  1. “Ladies and gentlemen, today we’re here to honor electricity, the charge that charges everything from those electrons snapping in our brain to our father the sun.”-
  1. “Opposites are not always contradictions they can be complimentary.”-
  1. “Opposites attract, and I think temperament is so fundamental that you end up craving someone of the opposite temperament to complete you.”-
  1. “Opposites may attract, but I wouldn’t put my money on a relationship of financial opposites.”-
  1. “So you find yourself surrounded by death and horror in the world, and you escape it into lust. But lust has no duration; it leaves you again in the desert.”-
  1. “The being of any group from the point of view of the group members themselves is very curious.”-
  1. “The universe maintained a balance, moving first one way and then the other in a forever equalizing of opposites.”-

Someone that’s different from you will definitely make them more likely to be interested in your eyes and draw a lot of your attention to that person.  It’s quite common already to seek out that opposites attract with each other.

According to Merriam-Webster, it defines the idiom “opposites attract” as a phrase “used to mention that folks who are very different from one another are often interested in one another.” It’s a trope that people mostly see in TV shows and films over and over again that not only applies to romantic relationships but friendships as well. Since it always makes for an excellent story arch—two people from completely different backgrounds overcoming the chances to coexist and to a more romantic extreme, have lived happily ever after. But actually, that couldn’t be beyond reality, cause the truth is you need to find someone you’re comfortable with and with some similarities between the two of you.

If there are various studies that show relationships with a partner almost like you last longer, why are then people seem so interested in a theory that tells a person to travel after someone they’ve nothing in common with? Can you truly find thrill within the story of drama? Do you have the eagerness that much that you want to prove those odds wrong? 

No matter what your answer is, it’s still up to you whether you believe that the opposite is indeed always attracted to one another or it’s much better to look for someone who has a lot of common things with you.

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